Our Counsellors are Christians, just like you. They understand the unique joys and the challenges faced by Christian couples – for example, the tremendous benefits of prayer, and the pressures of church and ministry commitments.
What are Some of the Common Issues?
Most, if not all intimate relationships will experience difficulty at some point and Christians are certainly not exempt. If you and your partner are experiencing problems in your relationship, be assured that this is not abnormal. However, if the problems are persistent and/or affecting your quality of life, we would recommend that you seek therapy. Many Christians seek help from their minister however we would suggest that a qualified and experienced Psychologist who shares your Christian beliefs, drawing on the latest evidence based approaches, may be of greater assistance.
Some of the more common reasons that couples seek counselling include:
- Premarital counselling
- Communication difficulties
- Sexual dissatisfaction
- Power struggles
- Role conflicts
- Concerns about children or family
- Financial issues
- Conflict resolution
- Work / life / ministry balance
Couples can also come to see a therapist to enhance their relationship even if there are no specific areas of difficulty – this is often referred to as relationship enhancement.
What To Expect at Marriage Counselling
When you come to see a couples therapist, you can expect to be able to share your relational difficulties in a respectful, caring and non-judgemental environment.
You and your partner will have the opportunity to resolve your issues in a safe environment and in this setting, you are both able to gain deeper levels of insight into your relationship dynamics as well as to allow mutual understanding within the relationship. Our therapists are empathic to you and your partner; we also are firm and objective enough to maintain balance in the session (we don’t take sides). Through listening and attending to you and your partner, the therapist will guide you and your partner in exploring the dynamics of your relationship and offer input and direction in how to improve on your relational patterns.
Positive changes can be seen as early as the 3rd or 4th sessions, but this will vary from couple to couple depending on the nature and complexities in the relationship. The length of the therapy is also dependent on you and your partner; we recommend at least 10 to 12 sessions.
What if my Partner Refuses to Come With Me?
We recommend that if possible, both you and your partner come to marriage counselling. However, if one party does not wish to come, we still recommend that you come for individual counselling for your relationship difficulties.
There is the chance that over time, your partner will notice the positive changes in yourself and this might encourage him/her to come to sessions with you in the future. If anything, working on your own self within the context of your relationship is going to have a positive effect on your relationship, as well as your own personal wellbeing. A common issue is the male not wanting to come to therapy as he thinks that a female therapist will not be able to understand him and may even take the side of the woman. At our clinic, we have both male and female therapists, so this problem can easily be circumvented.
Being part of a satisfying relationship with your partner has been shown to bring about:
- life satisfaction
- the ability to manage illness better
- as well as an overall sense of fulfilment and satisfaction.
It will also usually also mean that:
- you are less likely to be depressed or anxious
- you will have a lower risk of cardiovascular and immune system difficulties.
Finally, it has also been found that children of distressed couples are more likely to experience anxiety, depression and conduct problems. All the more reason make sure your marriage is in tip-top shape!
Don’t delay any further – make an appointment with us!
Having relationship difficulties can be a real source of stress and affect your quality of life. We understand how tough it can be trying to handle these issues alone. Get in touch with us and we would be very happy to help you and your partner work through your issues and improve your relationship.
Author: Joey Tai, BA (Psych), Master of Clinical Psychology.
Joey Tai is a Clinical Psychologist specialising in with working with couples, after researching couple attraction and couples’ therapy while obtaining his Master of Clinical Psychology. Joey is a committed Christian and serves as a youth pastor at his local church.
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